Anniversary

New Years Eve is my husband and I's anniversary. We have always joked that we married on this day so that we wouldn't forget to celebrate together. The truth of the matter is I could never forget that day. This was the day that truly sent me on the path of what a marriage should be like. Showed me how a husband should really treat his wife and how a father should be with his children. Rodney and I love each other and our family with the kind of love that comes from the scriptures....

Colossians 3:19, 21

The Message (MSG)

19 Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them.

21 Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits.

I know that some women will hate the message of next few verses. They want to be thought of as strong as men. Mentally, yes we are, but lets face it, men do tend to be stronger, physically.

And as wives of these men why not let them treat you special. It doesn't make us weaker to let them feel stronger. They need to feel that we count on them for so many things and love them for all that they do.

I think since my diagnoses of Lupus Rodney has become more supportive and loving than ever before. Part of this is that I had to admit that there are some things I just can't do anymore and that I need him more than ever before. This was hard for me but I have survived this realization. And have an even better marriage because we are living the married life described here.....

1 Peter 3:7

Good News Translation (GNT)

7 In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God's gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.

Ephesians 5:22-23

The Message (MSG)

22 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. 
23 The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing...

God created marriage so that man would not be alone and so that we could be happy and populate the world. Do you think He would give us the wrong prescription in the scriptures on how to make it work? Of course not!

Now I am not saying that Rodney and I do not have issues at times. We are only human you know. Sometimes we each want to do things our own way and butt heads. At these times we step back, think about what we are doing, pull ourselves together, apologize, and get back to the way things should be. 
The wonderful thing about this is that there are less and less times that we need to step back and think. As we continue on in our scripture led marriage, we have become more and more in sync with each other and happier and happier together, as the years roll on.

My hope is, as we head into a New Year, and as the years roll on for you and your spouse, that the two of you will have the kind of relationship that will bring peace to you and your family!  The same way it has happened for us. I know there is nothing sweeter!

Blessings!