Love on the right side!

As I was sitting in the living room with my man last night it struck me how right things are for us. Rodney and I have a wonderful friendship where love, respect and an genuine caring about each other is a God given gift we share.

Now ladies  you might not agree with me, but I love being in the kind of relationship called for here in Ephesians....

Ephesians 5:21-28

The Message (MSG)

Relationships

²¹ Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.

^22-24 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.

^25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage

I'm lucky because Rodney does love me like this. It makes living like this passage calls for, easy. Ladies it is freeing to be in this kind of relationship. Now I do have opinions and I do my own thing in the day to day of life. But I never pull away from Rodney and the things we have decided together.

Ladies our men can be very wise at times. God has given them a mind that sees things a little differently then we do. They can prioritize and separate feelings from decisions that need to be made, where as we mix things together and sometimes let our hearts rule, when it needs to be our heads.

 This is not always bad because sometimes our men need to be reminded of the soft side of life. God has given us the gift of discernment and our men need us to use that gift to help them when they are being too hard or even gullible.

See how this plan of God's comes together? He created us equal and He knew exactly how to make this husband and wife thing work. It is tough though when either one of us in our relationship forgets their role and wants to rule instead of love like Christ. And does not let God be in control of the marriage.

 I have to tell you that letting God be the leader in our relationship has gotten us through some pretty tough times. Such as a parting of ways with a business partner, which led to a tough financial situation. It would have been so easy at this time to blame one another and pull apart but instead we ended up stronger.

Another time was when Riley, our youngest was born premature and with Down syndrome.  We saw families in the NICU who had children in similar situations who's relationship couldn't take the pressure. Some babies were practically abandoned. My sweet husband was a rock and loved so deeply through the weeks of waiting. He got us through when others couldn't.

I'm not saying we never disagree but I am saying that with this kind of love we can make it through anything.

My hope for you ladies, is that you can be in this kind of relationship too. If not, find a way to help each other become all you two can be together. Prayer works! And if you can live for your man the way Ephesians 5: 22-24 says,  your example can show him how good life can be and will make him a better husband too!

Blessings!

One of those days!

One of those days...

Well ladies I don't usually post everyday but this morning has been one of those days, already, and I just needed to tell you about it.

Last night something happened with all the wind and we lost power. It woke us up enough that I set the alarm on Rodney's phone (or so I thought) so that I would still be able to get up on time to get Riley on the bus. Well, you can guess it, I forgot to tell the phone yes, I did want the alarm on. So of course I woke up late. The bus would be there in 5 minutes. I got Riley up and started him on his way to getting dressed.

This is spirit week at his school and today was Nerd day. Luckily I had already put some white tape on his glasses so all we had to do to finish his outfit was to put some pins in the front pocket of his button down shirt. I must have slept fretfully after the power went off because my hair looked like I had stood on my head all night. I got Riley sat down to eat breakfast and was just trying to smooth down my hair as the bus pulled up. 

There is a rule that they cannot eat on the bus and my Riley takes food very seriously so I went out to the bus and told the driver I would run him to school. My car needed gas and this would be a good time to get some. We live 15 miles from his school so I figured I had plenty enough gas to get that done.

It was still dark and still raining as we set off.  I looked down at my gas gauge half way there, and realized I may have figured wrong so I reached around behind my seat to get my phone out of my purse, just in case I needed to call Rodney. Guess what. My purse and phone were still back at the house. I had gotten the car out of the garage and ran in to get Riley but forgot to pick up my purse. I didn't let on too much because I didn't want to upset Riley any more than a change in his routine already had, so we went ahead and drove to school.

I ran him into the school, still looking like I had slept on my head, OH WELL, and started back for home, with the fear that I may be walking soon, without an ID and looking like a crazy woman. Now this is when I realized I was taking all this stress on myself and had not even prayed for help.

I stopped at a stop sign and said a little prayer. To my amazement my gas gauge came up a little. Not tons, because I really didn't deserve it to. I usually don't let my gas get so low but for some reason had this time. Anyway, a peace came over me and this sweet song came on the CD about how God will lead you home. No lie!!!  Ladies, God is so amazing. He was probably laughing but He knew I needed that little extra help and He gave it!!

Matthew chapter 6 came to mind as I was heading home, now in daylight, not the dark and the rain. Parts of it talk about how we are not to worry about anything. I started laughing and apologizing to our heavenly Father for all the fretting, worrying and stewing.

I hope your day goes smooth but if it doesn't, don't do what I did, ask for help before you fret!!

Blessings!!!